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Care Package Archive

Rejuvenating and practical frameworks for creating Clarity and Wellness in all areas of your life.

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Care Packages🤲🏽

You know when someone who loves you sends you a parcel with a bunch of goodies in it? I’m endeared to the care package (in whatever form it comes) as a way of making, way of caring, way of sharing. There’s no shortage of possibility as to how a care package presents, what it contains, what assortments are collected, how it’s delivered, how it’s received, and what it might mean to it’s recipients.

I value that this orientation toward making and giving can bring together items that you don’t always see together. You’re simply giving what’s needed and what might land as care. I like when a care package is a sweet collection of some practical stuffs and also things for pure enjoyment (maybe highlighting the functionality of joy and pleasure to our survival); a mix of things you can use in the long run plus some things to use right now. A box containing socks, a nice notebook, some chocolate, a bag of rice.

I like both mail and creating with the intention to give, so the Care Package holds a place in my heart. I send the people on my list a weekly (email) Care Package 🤲🏽. I write them with the intention of both holding space for all the positive possibility that you radiate, and to be of real tangible use. Ideas that you can grab onto, that make a difference in your life.

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CARE PACKAGE 5 🤲🏽 Affirmations are Decluttering Punk Rock

Affirmations are decluttering punk rock

Yes, I do write affirmations everyday. 

In case that turns you off as kind of fluffy or boring, let me tell you why it’s not ‘just saying some stuff’, the actual mechanisms you’re employing with affirmations, how it’s super cool and kinda punk to do this, and what it matters to you and your trajectory.

These are the areas I coach on: home, body, spirit, habits, and prosperity consciousness. Regarding all of these areas, I’m functionally motivated (how does it work for us, not just what does it look like), and the essence of my work... it’s really all about imagining something better, believing in your abilities as a maker to de/reconstruct your world… resourcefulness, a rejection of what is going on that you’re not down with, and a determination to create/DIY your own scene. It’s super punk rock if you ask me.

Affirmations can appear to be an additive process but they’re actually minimalist and subtractive. Affirmations are a proactive way of shedding crap that you’ve accumulated, absorbed, and have been indoctrinated with throughout your life. Like a subconscious decluttering, or daily teeth cleaning.

But why declutter and clean the mind with affirmations?

Well, you’ve got a soundtrack of thoughts playing in the back of your mind, nonstop, all the time. That soundtrack plays an instrumental role (coincidental wordplay) in how you feel, how you choose, and what you experience. A gigantic majority of what is playing in the background of your mind and influencing your life are beliefs you didn’t intentionally decide on; it’s just stuff that has collected over time.

The term ‘limiting belief’ gets thrown around a lot so let me reframe it in a new way that matters and makes sense- beliefs are structures we create and then forget that we created them and then get stuck inside.

Beliefs are thought structures. They help us make sense of and navigate our world. They are made by us, shared amongst us, consumed and lived within. We are such excellent makers of these structures and they are so meaningful to us that we not only believe our beliefs to be absolutely true, we forget that we are the thinker of our thoughts and the maker of our beliefs and that we could, if we wanted, come up with something different if those thoughts and beliefs weren’t serving us.

It’s not that there are certain beliefs that are ‘limiting beliefs’, it’s that we create beliefs to live within and then, naturally, outgrow those beliefs. But because we forget the beliefs are created, we don’t always notice that they can be changed. Instead we try to fit ourselves inside the restrictive reality… and that’s how we make ourselves sick, unwell, conflicted, and unhappy.

Writing affirmations is simply taking a brief moment (out of all the moments we are alive) to be deliberate; to choose spacious, resonant and intentional thoughts, compared to the ones we end up collecting by default.

But also, expectancy and seeing does play a part in what happens and what we experience, because seeing is active (not inactive), and intending is active (not just hopeful).

When you choose to look at what you want to expand upon, ie: what you are making from what is there (kinda like drawing), you are actively surrounding yourself with that reality, effectively and immediately influencing your experience. When you engage positive expectancy, you project your intention and vision of how things cango into the immediate future, laying a path for that to occur. 

All of that is felt by you. And it does make a difference. In fact, affirmation and visualization are known tools of high performers. You’re familiar with Muhammad Ali’s self-affirmative language and poetry. Have you seen his predictive/ imaginative/ exploratory drawings of being victorious in the ring? All of that is this, precisely what I’m talking about.

But, however much language and words are powerful and I love them, it actually isn’t even about the words. It’s about the feeling. It’s about accessing words that suitably describe a feeling of... well-being, spaciousness, health, peace of mind, prosperity… whatever it is you’re rewriting for yourself.

Here’s why it’s not just saying some words. Here’s how it really has the potential to be an absolute game changer for you:

When we are on a trajectory of change we often know more intimately the feeling that ‘we are not where we want to be’ than we know the feeling of where it is we want to be. For that reason, even with all the best strategies and processes, we can find ourselves never arriving... perpetually struggling because the struggle is habituated and familiar.

You will never actually have a pathway to what you want unless you can access the feeling of what you want. Conveniently, accessing the feeling of what you are wanting and spending time in that feeling is actually the most high-leverage thing you can do to actualize it in your reality.

This is a law of attraction thing, yes. But even beyond that, it’s a simple matter of familiarity with your goal post. If you don’t know the goal post you will never allow yourself to get there. Even if you physically arrive you never mentally arrive because of the habituated familiarity of your distance from it.

Writing affirmations is intentionally spending time becoming familiar with the unique feeling of your goal post, effectively minimizing your subconscious resistance to being there, and proactively restructuring beliefs to be big enough for you to grow into.

Holding space for your grandest reality,

Loretta

Originally shared 14 April 2021


Loretta Barrera