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Care Package Archive

Rejuvenating and practical frameworks for creating Clarity and Wellness in all areas of your life.

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Care Packages🤲🏽

You know when someone who loves you sends you a parcel with a bunch of goodies in it? I’m endeared to the care package (in whatever form it comes) as a way of making, way of caring, way of sharing. There’s no shortage of possibility as to how a care package presents, what it contains, what assortments are collected, how it’s delivered, how it’s received, and what it might mean to it’s recipients.

I value that this orientation toward making and giving can bring together items that you don’t always see together. You’re simply giving what’s needed and what might land as care. I like when a care package is a sweet collection of some practical stuffs and also things for pure enjoyment (maybe highlighting the functionality of joy and pleasure to our survival); a mix of things you can use in the long run plus some things to use right now. A box containing socks, a nice notebook, some chocolate, a bag of rice.

I like both mail and creating with the intention to give, so the Care Package holds a place in my heart. I send the people on my list a weekly (email) Care Package 🤲🏽. I write them with the intention of both holding space for all the positive possibility that you radiate, and to be of real tangible use. Ideas that you can grab onto, that make a difference in your life.

I created the Care Package Archive to collect these packages all in one place. Sign up if ya wanna receive em straight to your inbox.

CP18🤲🏽 The Wellness industry places pressure on the ‘ME’ that can only be faced by the ‘WE’

Perhaps only Community can Heal us- and perhaps curiosity is the mechanism

 

Some of the main premises underlying my work are the following understandings:

1) That relationships are environments and environments are relationships.

2) In any relationship we are doing one of 2 things: connecting or controlling.

3) No-one and nothing likes to be controlled. Most, if not all, problems stem from attempting to control in a relationship or environment.

4) Connection and control are opposites; if you’re controlling you’re not connecting, and vice versa.

4) Connection is antidotal to control and is the orientation with which we create healthy environment/relationships.

(The connection vs control aspect of these thoughts comes from Choice Theory)

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Adding to these foundational understandings, something that comes up in my coaching A LOT… is curiosity and play.

I attribute this to a number of things:

  • not least of all who I am, who the people I attract into my sphere are, and an openness to this approach being a vibrant common denominator highlighted in the meeting space.

  • In being a recipient of coaching (or any other form of facilitation), one is typically hoping to create some shifts. As mentioned, I will never introduce any degree of control into the dynamic whether in the immediate relationship or in suggestions about making those shifts; Instead I believe in our ability to guide, lead, and have a sustainable influence over the areas of our lives and experiences that matter to us. Being dedicated to connection rather than control, curiosity and play emerge as productive orientations to have in creating shifts for ourselves and others.

  • Play has been a relevant part of my own process, thinking, learning, making, everything I do and have ever done, including this coaching business. 

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Naturally, play and curiosity fit right into and support the mission of connection. Perfectly.

But connection is kinda meta, right? Like… “alright that sounds nice but how do we unpack and implement… what does it even mean… how do we approach it?”

Truthfully I’ve only recently (in this very moment) been able to make this throughline between what were previously two separate ideas: a dedication to connection instead of control, and my inclination toward play and curiosity.

If connecting is creating a link or association, then curiosity and play seem to be the functional mechanisms by which we do that. Not only how we do that in the immediate and small scale but also how we might create community and begin to think beyond individualism into collectivism… which, I have a hunch, may be the only way we can truly heal, move forward, and transcend the challenges we face individually.

One criticism of the wellness industry is that it puts on the shoulders of the individual problems that need to be faced by the collective. There are many reasons why I think this is a relevant and productive criticism. At a bare minimum, zooming out to see “oh I’m not alone”

And while I can see that community is an undoubtably solid solution, I am by no means aiming to preach here. Seriously. I’m pretty introverted, can be a bit of a hermit, big-time value my alone time, and don’t feel particularly poised to spearhead that mission..

I’ve been thinking about all of this for awhile and when this realization popped up- Community is the answer- I immediately thought “well fuck, how do I do that?” It’s probably one of the only things I truly don’t feel I have the mental or energetic capacity for right now.

But WAIT, isn’t that the whole damn point right there??

That even while I can conceptualize the solution, I can’t do it alone; the solution itself necessitates others… connecting, creating a link, reaching out, asking for help.

Needing the support of others… It’s ok. It might be precisely the lesson we’re learning as humans right now.

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Have a bravely vulnerable, creatively articulate, resourcefully vibrant day :)

Chau,

Loretta

Do not hesitate to reach out to me or to others for support on your path. The world is weird and it’s a weird ass time and you’re not alone and we’re here to help each other.

Images: drawing thoughts on what a relationship/environment is, playing double dutch, a weaver ant nest, a symbiotic relationship between Langur Monkeys and spotted Deer called mutualism.

Thought pairing suggestion (click to read):

Loretta Barrera